Recently, during one of our online parenting discussions, a mother admitted something that made several other parents immediately nod in recognition: “I miss the little girl she used to be.” There was no criticism in the way she said it, and no suggestion that she didn’t love the teenager her […]

Carl Rogers’ concept of an internal versus external locus of evaluation offers a useful way of understanding what happens when we lose contact with our own needs and begin to rely heavily on other people to tell us who we are and whether we are doing life ‘correctly.’ Although the […]